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From: guest (viewer)
, 34 months, post #1 |
Is this the right place to ask?
Like paint a picture of what it's like to someone trying to
understand if you don't mind
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From: guest (Science)
, 34 months, post #2 |
I think the real scientific definition outlines it best below:
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/gender-dysphoria/symptoms-causes/syc-20475255
Aside from that, I think it is not exactly something easy to put
into words, as it person may experience it differently. It is
likely best to discuss with a doctor or a psychiatrist to
understand one's own perspective on something like this.
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From: guest (viewer)
, 34 months, post #3 |
Thank you for that
it seems like there's a lot to learn of Male to Female on this
site, but I was reading a site on Female to Males talking about how
badly they wanted to be male and I felt completely horrible. Even
top and bottom surgery
One of my subordinates is a trans man and if that's the shit he's
going though, wow, I want him to feel just like us
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From: guest (experiencer)
, 34 months, post #4 |
I appreciate your curiosity guest. Post #2 is right in that
everyone's experiences are different. Reading or listening to books
from different trans authors would probably give you a good sense
of different people's experiences. The great thing is there is a
lot of material out there nowadays for presumably cis people like
yourself to check out to empathize! :)
I will give my account as someone who feels a lot of disphoria as a
man (i.e., in terms of sex) but wishes with every piece of myself,
that I was a ciswoman. I spend almost every other thought (e.g.,
every time I see a woman) wishing for whatever unknown reason that
I was a woman. I can't say what from my genetics or my upbringing
made me feel this way, but I can try to give you a sense of the
feeling.
For me, it kind of feels like when you're physically sick and all
you want is to somehow will yourself to get better, but you know
it's impossible to make your mind do so. On a slightly more
positive note, it's like having an itch deep inside your skin that
you can't scratch maybe? On top of that, in reality it feels like
as you describe what feel like your innate needs to others, they
perceive it as you saying something like "I've always just wanted
superpowers" or "I've always wanted wings--to fly!" As a result,
you also often feel misunderstood and like your needs are silly to
everyone else but you. It can be an incredibly lonely experience
that way.
Again, this is just a bit of my experience and my attempt to
describe it. I think kindly asking questions of your subordinate,
backing off when they don't want to talk about it, giving him
options for how to engage if at all, letting him know clearly that
you just want to understand and make sure he doesn't feel alone,
etc. can be positive. Know that he could also be incredibly happy
and not going through any of the negative stuff that is usually
talked about with dysphoria, too.
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From: Valkan
, 34 months, post #5 |
I think you can find more insight on a trans subreddit like
r/asktransgender
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From: MissMako
, 34 months, post #6 |
As a Trans Woman - I was diagnosed with "Gender Dysphoria" over 7
years ago (this is my story - and don't want to speak for anyone
else).
I spent most of my life (including my childhood) feeling
disconnected from my own body on a physical/gender level. My
instinct was to act more feminine. I didn't have the understanding
to know why I did this - but everyone around me forced me to act
more - like I looked on the outside - rather than what I natural
felt. It was this indoctrination and social conditioning that when
combined with having "Gender Dysphoria" that almost killed me.
I was always jealous that I hadn't been born a woman physically. I
was constantly at odds with my male body. It was like feeling a
massive VOID that eventually led to deep depression and eventually
some failed suicidal attempts.
I coped by created TF TG art. Shorts. Movies. Comics (you name it),
But it was all just a band-aid for me personally.
I started to seek medical help ten years ago. Spent a lot of time
with a therapist - two psychiatrists and two endocrinologists.
After a few years they all diagnosed me with "Gender Dysphoria".
One doctor took an MRI of my brain scan - and lined it up with a
Cis Male and Cis Female. My brain scan matched more of that with a
Cis Female. It was explained to me - that on a biological level -
my brain never received the proper hormones during In Utero so my
brain remained Feminized while my body developed in the opposite
direction. Which explains why I felt so disconnected from the day I
was pretty much born.
The recommendation of all these medical professionals for me - was
to physcially Transition my body to match the Gender of my brain.
And I did. And it completely wiped away my "Gender Dysphoria". I've
never been happier since. It was the right move for me.
The bi-product of this were the radical social changes where the
world mainly treats and looks at me as a woman now. While I did
have a few people in my life reject me - most support me. And I
wasn't quite ready for how the world treats Women differently from
Men. I definitely lost some privileges I had as a Man. I think
there's Pros and Cons to being either Gender - on a social level.
It's taken some time for me to adjust to Men Catcalling me -
Strangers asking me out in public - Men opening doors for me -
Women just wanting to hang and go clubbing/grab dinners/drink lots
of wine etc etc.
In the end - it's much easier for me to live as a Woman than I ever
did as a Man. Mainly because I don't have to try to BE A WOMAN (it
comes naturally to me). I had to put way more effort and TRY AND BE
A MAN (cause it didn't come naturally to me).
Cheers :)
- Miss Mako -
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From: guest (Should Be Beverly)
, 34 months, post #7 |
In short, it is like an itch I cannot scratch.
There should be breasts, and there are none. There should be a
vagina, and it is not there. I should be a woman for a man, but I
cannot.
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From: guest (To Be A Miss)
, 34 months, post #8 |
It would be a pleasure on this mosh pit of mostly crap to see nice
conversations like this one more often.
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From: guest
, 34 months, post #9 |
Message deleted by hskfmn. Be polite, courteous, and respectful. Please keep the conversations civil. |
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