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From: guest (hi)
, 90 months, post #1 |
I don't know anybody out there IRL who has the same fetish as me.
This place has been my go to since I was a teen, now I'm a
twentysomething and this is still the place for me to go.
Nobody I know has this fetish, no girl I've dated, no close friend
of mine. I don't know how I would have been able to be this way in
a pre-internet world.
Does anybody else feel the same way?
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From: guest (MJ)
, 90 months, post #2 |
Oh trust me I know how you feel all to well whats worse is dating
someone without telling them maybe I will one day but thats why i
love this board your able to find others like you and know your not
the only one in the world
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From: DB Cooper
, 90 months, post #3 |
For those of us who did grow up in the pre-internet world, the
birth of the net was amazing. "You mean I'm not the only guy who
finds (whatever) a turn on?"
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From: Weirdoid
, 90 months, post #4 |
I do, once your tg tastes drift male you are truly alone. In real
life and online. :(
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From: guest (bart)
, 90 months, post #5 |
its certainly a strange feeling. I am 20 now and have visited this
site almost every single day since I was 15..and not a single
person knows it. How secretive i have been about it only makes me
more curious about who else out there also visits this site, maybe
someone i know, maybe someone in my college classes or someone i
pass on the street but ill never know. Ive come close to telling
people but haven't because theres still nothing i can do about it,
if there was a way to switch bodies in real life i would certainly
tell my girlfriend because then we could actually do it, but
telling her just seems pointless.
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From: guest (bart)
, 90 months, post #6 |
i live in Portland Oregon by the way... anyone ??
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From: guest
, 90 months, post #7 |
Sweden...
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From: Shard
, 90 months, post #8 |
Well I know a majority of visitors here are male, and ironically we
are lonely because we are not jerks to women, which most women are
attracted to. Our fetish/interest gives us a tad more insight into
things most guys never even have cross their minds and I feel this
makes us just a little nicer to women, and they say nice guys
finish last. I can attest to this.
I'm 35 (and in NE Ohio btw), and at the point where I say I'm
between breakups because women just don't like nice guys (and well,
at times at my age I feel all the good ones have 3 kids by now or
else I'm in a deadzone of what I'm looking for). They feel we're
being nice to get something in return (which some are..."sure, let
me carry those heavy bags! Sex afterwords? No? Then *insert next
helpful nice guy thing to do*). A lot of them feel we're nice to
hide who we are, that those rough guys aren't hiding anything, so
they're "more real." More honest and don't have to put up a false
face of pretending to be nice (even if you're genuinely a nice
person). And reading a lot of stories we do tend to put women on a
pedestal, which a lot don't like. They want to fine someone they
can confide in as much as we do, and it just may be what you need
to snag the girl of your dreams. Open up, show that vulnerability,
show them you truly are comfortable with them and have nothing to
hide like you would with your best friend....heck, it's why a lot
of us get friendzoned I'm sure!!
Now, I still lurk daily, have this as my home page even, but have
yet to find even a single person irl say they like body switching
stuff. Now, my one buddy is a furry and the other one was a furry
but descended into being a bronie shut-in, so they are into other
transformation stuff as well, and even then I don't tell them fully
everything about what I like (but I have been letting them know
more when I get them one on one.....I'm that much of an introvert).
And I can't imagine telling that stuff to my other friends, it'd
never fit into our conversations and it'd just be ignored.
However dating is a challenge for everyone. I've only started
dating for less than a decade (too busy finding the perfect job and
focusing on my college education and sometimes lament not going
after the ladies sooner) and have only had 4 serious girlfriends.
Within this time I've been dating, oh boy has there been research.
Videos. Books. Even intense dating discussions with people from
21-50 years old, even resorting to talking about that stuff with my
parents. As Pat Benatar says: Love is a battlefield. She ain't
kidding! But how many of them have I told about my bodyswitching
fantasy's? Not a single one.
Us as a whole, not just as males seeking a mate but everyone, I
feel we're all a little nicer because we can sympathize. Empathize.
Truly put ourselves in other peoples shoes and see things from
their point of view. So why do we keep it so secret? Are we afraid
people will think we want to transition, we're sissies, or we're
gay? If all this dating stuff has taught me anything it's we need
to be more open with our friends (and girlfriends). Maybe we'd open
them up to not just something they'd be interested in but it'd show
them a little facet of what makes you unique. Bridge that gap of
loneliness with stronger bonds to people.
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From: guest (vup)
, 90 months, post #9 |
The women who want relationships with "bad boys" are usually trying
to work out their "daddy issues" and want someone to "fix". Then,
when he's being nice they freak out and create drama so their
relationships never become healthy. You shouldn't lament not dating
someone like that.
I think for most other people (if not everyone), they tend to pick
relationships based on the unconscious perception of what they
think will improve the quality of life: looks, notoriety, money,
comfort, connection, etc. It's different for everyone and they're
not always good at knowing what they want.
I don't really consider my interest in this stuff a fetish or even
quite a fantasy per se, rather a niche interest that I don't really
share with anyone I know IRL. The difference being that a fetish is
something that you require
for gratification and frankly, when I'm dating someone, it doesn't
even occur to me to think about it when she's around so it never
comes up.
I think another reason I don't let myself worry that there's
something wrong with me is that years ago, of all the dozens of
websites that seemed to cater to cataloging content of this type,
there was one by a guy going by the name paul xoxo who gave a short
biography of himself as a hetero male who likes this kind of stuff
and otherwise doesn't let that bother him and he has normal
relationships IRL and he mentioned some other stuff about himself
that really could have described myself or any guy I know as being
totally normal so I could relate. (It might have been our fearless
leader and board owner paul, but it was so long ago I don't
remember if his collection became this site. cj? anyone?)
Also, visiting here knowing that there're plenty of folks with
similar interests normalizes it for me enough that I don't feel I
need to know anyone IRL who is the same. The discussions here are
lively enough to sate the desire for connection.
And lastly, I visit a lot of weird places on the web if I can just
out of curiosity so I know there are a lot of people out there who
are waaaay weirder and/or messed up than I ever could be if I
wanted and I don't even care to think of myself as "normal" anyway
so I don't worry about being "different".
So, yeah, pre-interweb I was a little anxious to think I might be
the only one but for the fact that Jack Chalker wrote so many
books about bodies being altered or minds being switched around I
knew there was at least one other person into it. Not to count the
fact that he sold so many books to people who obviously shared the
interest.
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From: guest (Luv_T_Switch_Bods)
, 90 months, post #10 |
Northeastern Pennsylvania here and have been visiting since 1997. I
can sympathize with
you Bart as I have been fantasizing about body swapping since the
5th grade. I'm always
available to chat or exchange mail.
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From: guest (Maura)
, 90 months, post #11 |
Hey luv_T I'm also from northeast pa although I no longer live
there. Ive been visiting since around 98 and have also been
interested in this since around 4th or 5th grade
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From: guest (nobody special)
, 90 months, post #12 |
"I don't know how I would have been able to be this way in a
pre-internet world."
Hmmm...
Well, depends on how you're defining "fetish", I guess.
For me, I've just been interested in some of the things that girls
get to wear, do, and play with since I was a kid. I don't recall
ever having felt that I was a girl in a boy's body... but I sure
was curious about the things that were only for girls, I'd
sometimes even play games where I was a girl (or "girl" dog).
As I got older, I began to wonder more about girls, and tried to
learn... but was never really sure what I was looking for / what
questions to ask. I learned quite a bit, usually by chance, while
eyeballs-deep in an encyclopedia, or some other
non-fiction/reference book or magazine article... and often, the
information was about animals vs human... then I could sometimes
find a way to compare the animal to the human.
Puberty was a weird time for me. I think that's where I began to
want to BE a girl, but I also wanted to date them (not at the same
time though). Mainly, I wanted to know what it was like to be some
girl or other - I'm not certain that I ever wanted to be the girl
that I was interested in dating though (I'm not sure why).
Somewhere near or during puberty I was exposed to the idea of MtF
(and FtM) gender-reassignment. It was a television series -- I
believe it may have been "Real People"
or something like that. The episode had a husband and wife (and I
think they had kids) who both changed genders and remained married.
Thinking back upon it, I'm not certain that the story was true, but
back then, I was intrigued.
The thoughts and curiosity never went away, and even when I was on
a date, or with a girl, I would still wonder what it would be like
to be a girl... now even the one I was with (or interested in). A
few of my female friends got to learn that I was curious about
being a girl, though I never revealed it to my girlfriends (not
sure why). Most were willing to discuss a few things like dealing
with makeup and hair and long nails... but I never stuck with
things to the point that I really learned anything useful.
When it came to making out and... intimate relations, I was
generally paying attention to taking care of my partner's needs and
desires, so I wasn't thinking about being her or any other girl...
for the most part. Sometimes thoughts of what it would be like to
be her would slip in but mostly if they did, they'd soon enough be
drowned-out by other thoughts and such.
Then came the internet.
I'd tell you that things were better or worse since the internet
became a major player in the modern world, but other factors have
had just as much, if not more influence on my decline in social
activity and such since. So I guess the only value that this post
might have, is to give you an idea of how one of us dealt with
things before the internet.
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From: guest (ale)
, 90 months, post #13 |
I live in Foggia, Italy and i understand you nobody know this
fetish like we do
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From: guest (Luv_To_Switch_Bods)
, 90 months, post #14 |
That's cool Maura, please drop me a line at amandapa86@mail.com
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From: guest (Sensualaoi)
, 90 months, post #15 |
Why would you feel lonely about it or special? I've read hundreds
of body swap stories, mostly in Japanese, and someone like-minded
had to have written them.
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From: guest (I guest)
, 90 months, post #16 |
(Im male) My psychologist thinks my fetish to possess female bodies
comes from my feeling that the females in my family could get away
with more stuff. My mom was always making the decisions and my
older sister was the punk-naughty teenager so I guess I envied her.
I started analyzing this recently because I realized that my body
swap fetish started before I became a sexual being... before I had
dirty thoughts I always was fascinated when a male cartoon
character possesses some female character. I was always the good
son, and still my sister got the same amount of love from my
parents. That is just my psychologists theory, but it sounds
plausible.
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From: guest (Lurker)
, 90 months, post #17 |
Lurker here. 24, California.
Would never think about telling my fetish to anyone. For me it is
more the idea of a male having full access to a female body by
being inside one. Have had this interest for most of my life, I'd
say within the community I'm into more "vanilla" stuff- ive
honestly had a pretty normal life and relationships. I'm very
social, was in a fraternity in college, have never had a problem
with women. Usually think about something tg related to get me
"going."
I've been coming to this site for a few years. I definitely agree
it is a lonely fetish. For me, it's the lack of quality tg content
which frustrates me, as it does for many of us. This is why I'm
thankful for sites and communities like this for aggregating
content. I'm sure there are far more lurkers like me who benefit
off the work of others finding and posting stuff.
Maybe having to think about this kind of stuff affects my sex
life... maybe it makes me a bit absent minded when I'm with my
girlfriend or whatever. In any case I don't think it is a specific
type of person or personality type who is into tg stuff.
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From: cj
, 90 months, post #18 |
"Why would you feel lonely about it or special?"
That suggests that you may have grown-up in a culture and religion
that doesn't vilify... or at least frown upon boys doing "girly"
things.
The time and place (rural Middle-America) where I grew up, boys did
not become women, and they did not dress or act like girls. Doing
such things were bad, sinful... and your mortal soul could burn in
hell for eternity. Not to mention your peers would taunt you and
perhaps even beat you up, just for thinking such things.
With no internet to turn to for help... it was indeed a lonely
thing, this desire to explore... experience a girl's world, her
life.
At least, until the internet came along and I discovered more about
myself, my TG / TF interests, and this community.
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From: guest (5194)
, 47 months, post #19 |
Mhmm feels very lonely
gender bodyswaps, like I love women so much
My friend who is a good looking girl lightheartedly joked about
wanting to be me one time and I played back trying to not show too
much interest but thought it was so hot
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From: guest
, 47 months, post #20 |
does anyone from this nearly 4 year old thread still visit here?
i'd be interested in talking to you guys.i like the sense of
solidarity that this site brings
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